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You Aren’t Broken. Change Is Hard.
Stop being a perfectionist.
How many times have you made a New Year’s resolution and failed to follow through on it? Maybe you just made one and have slipped up already.
I have. My resolution for 2020 was to post an article every 3 days. I failed immediately.
But, it was also completely unrealistic. I have a home renovation underway that is taking away my time and headspace from writing.
You might think, if your resolution meant enough to you, you would have made time for it.
Isn’t this our natural reaction to failure? To blame ourselves, to make ourselves feel like shit, to beat ourselves up over and over again?
Here’s the problem: it won’t help. Even though it feels perfectly natural to berate ourselves for failure, this only sets us up for more failure in the future. This mindset of needing to get everything perfect the first time is a key factor in what’s causing us to fail in the first place.
There is a balance to be struck between wanting to change and needing to get things right. Most of us overshoot this balance.
The question is, how do we find the balance so we can change?
