What is ‘Spirituality’, Anyway?

It is both completely obvious and impossibly esoteric.

Jeff Valdivia
5 min readMar 2, 2023
Photo by Daria Rom on Unsplash

On March 13, 2013, almost 10 years ago to this day, my life changed forever.

There wasn’t anything particularly interesting about this moment. It had happened a million times before.

An ex and I had been traveling for months and we were re-hashing one of those pointless kinds of arguments that never go anywhere. You know what I’m talking about.

But, for a reason that is beyond my understanding, something shifted inside of me that day. I suddenly saw that we were both stuck in some kind of destructive dance and I was playing a part, rather than being true to myself. And for the briefest of moments, I saw through the story I was telling myself about her, me, and the situation in which we found ourselves.

In the following years, I would come to realize that life is made complex by our minds’ propensity to perpetuate our stories. Look closely, and you will see that you are constantly telling yourself a story about what has happened, is happening, or will happen to you.

It’s not that this isn’t ever helpful. We seem to interpret the world through stories. And that can be beautiful.



Jeff Valdivia

Following my curiosity and hoping it will lead me to wisdom. I write about psychology, meditation, self-development, and spirituality.