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There’s nothing wrong with you, but you need to change
Stop asking “What’s wrong with me?”
Do you ever ask, “What’s wrong with me?”
Maybe something has gone wrong at work, with a friendship, or with a romantic relationship. Whatever has happened, you feel responsible or, at least, you feel like if you were different somehow this wouldn’t be a problem.
Let’s be real. Feeling inadequate or not good enough sucks. These feelings can quickly overwhelm our minds.
The thing is, asking questions like, What’s wrong with me? can simply make the situation worse by riling up our emotions.
On the flip side, asking a friend or partner the same question with the expectation of them exclaiming adamantly, Nothing is wrong with you! will never resolve the issue.
The fact is, when something goes wrong in your life you need to adjust.
If you’re sailing and the wind changes direction, neither lamenting your bad fortune nor asking a fellow sailor for a self-esteem boost is going to resolve the problem, which is that you’re now heading in the wrong direction. You actually have to do something — you have to adjust the sails — to stay on course.
But, life never feels this logical, does it? Our emotions often get the better of us.
