Feeling stuck? Use these 3 key tools to help you change your life

Are you having trouble making lasting, positive change?

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#1 Remind yourself that change is hard

Change is not easy. Obviously. If change were easy we’d all be our very best selves, rocking the world with our confidence, creativity, and intelligence.

#2 Focus on what you can control

Do you wish that some events of your past were different?

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

We cannot change our pasts. We cannot change our present circumstances. But, we wish we could. And our brains have been granted the gift and the curse of being able to imagine what could have been or what could be.

Letting go of what you cannot change

Letting go is hard.

#3 Have self-compassion

When there’s something about your life that you want to change, that means you dislike that aspect of yourself, right?

Moving forward

People do change, but it’s never easy. Some things, however, will make change easier.

  1. Let go of the things you can’t control. Your past and present circumstances arose out of a set of conditions you did not have complete control over. Understanding why you made the decisions you did can help you stop fantasizing about a past or present that doesn’t exist.
  2. Develop self-compassion. I can’t overstate the importance of this. If you are on your own side, it makes change a thousand times easier. Stop beating yourself up for failure. That strategy doesn’t work.

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