Don’t Fight Your Fears. Instead, Cultivate Your Courage

Jeff Valdivia
6 min readJan 12, 2023

Fear is not the enemy you think it is.

Photo by Vadim Bogulov on Unsplash

You often wish your fears didn’t exist, don’t you?

They all too frequently stand, like terrifying monsters, in the way of getting what you want, don’t they?

Your fears stop you from talking to your crush. They stop you from pursuing your dreams. They stop you from expressing what you need to express in a relationship.

The “remedy” you often hear for these predicaments is, just do it, there’s nothing to be afraid of!

But, that’s not helpful, is it? You’re already afraid. If there was nothing to be afraid of, you wouldn’t be fearful!

Fear is a powerful emotion. And it makes a lot of sense that it is. The purpose of fear is to keep us safe and alive. If it wasn’t powerful, it would be easy to ignore and we could too easily put ourselves at real risk.

The problem is, your brain doesn’t really know what to be fearful of. The fears you hold come from some combination of genetics and learned responses to things. Your brain is just guessing at what to be afraid of, and sometimes, it’s wrong.

The question is, when you know your brain is being unnecessarily fearful, what can you do about it?

Stop fighting your fears



Jeff Valdivia

Following my curiosity and hoping it will lead me to wisdom. I write about psychology, meditation, self-development, and spirituality.