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Do you need to solve your partner’s problems? Or, do you need your partner to solve yours?
You may be stuck in a hero-victim relationship.
With great responsibility comes great power.
~ Mark Manson
Are you looking for a romantic partner who’s down on his luck? Someone who’s hit rock bottom? A little damaged? Someone who clearly needs help… your help? Someone only you could lift out of the hole in which he’s found himself?
Or, are you looking for someone to save you from your present circumstances? Someone who has all the answers? Someone who can pull you out of the gutter? Your very own version of a knight in shining armour?
If you are one of these two people, you may have found yourself in a hero-victim relationship at some point in your life.
The victim believes that others are to blame for his problems, and that if someone could only see how much he’s suffering and solve his problems for him, he would finally get the love he’s always wanted.
On the other hand, the hero believes that if she can solve the victim’s problems and relieve him of his suffering, she will finally get the love she’s always wanted.
