Five things you need to know.

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#1 You’re going to be insecure

Going on a date is a nerve-wracking experience, especially if you’ve only chatted with the person on some kind of dating app.

  1. This is a job interview, and you are the interviewer. We tend to focus on ourselves because we want people to like us. But, it’s better to find someone worthy of your time, not just someone who likes you. So, figure out whether you like them!
  2. Be grateful. Be grateful for the opportunity to meet another human being in a psychologically vulnerable position. They are opening themselves up to you in an unusual way. Don’t take that for granted.
  3. Check your expectations at the door. There is no need to go into a date with sky-high expectations, or the opposite. Instead, just go with it. Who knows, maybe you’re about to find your new best friend.

#2 You’re going to have awkward conversations

Let’s be straight for a minute. People are awkward AF. You, me, everyone. And then you add some fear, anxiety, and tension to the mix and BAM! you’ve got a disaster just waiting to happen.

#3 You’re going to be irrational

When I finally felt ready to have a relationship, it was about a year and a half after my separation. How did I know?

#4 You’re going to make people cry

This is a tough one. There’s no sugar-coating it.

#5 You’re going to need to put yourself first

Who are you? What do you want? What gets you out of bed in the morning? What gets your blood pumping? What makes life worth living for you?

Following my curiosity and hoping it will lead me to wisdom. I write about science, meditation, and spirituality.

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