Change is hard

This simple trick will help

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“Although difficult, change is always possible. What holds us back from making the changes we desire are our own limiting thoughts and actions.”

~ Satsuki Shibuya

Have you ever wished you were different, but felt stuck with what you had?

I have. Thousands of times.

I’ve wished that I wasn’t so shy. I’ve wished that I wasn’t so socially awkward. I’ve wished that I was funnier. I’ve wished that I wasn’t so nervous speaking in front of large groups of people. I’ve wished that I was more athletic, more interesting, a better writer.

Have you noticed there are some ways we think we can change and there are other ways we think we can’t?

When I first started my current job about a year ago, I didn’t know anything about the business, but I was reasonably confident that one day I would better understand what was going on. Lo and behold, today I very slightly better understand what is going on! Yay!

Then, there are other things. Things that we tell ourselves we are, things we decide define our sense of self. I’m an angry person. I’m not good a math. I’m terrified of speaking in front of large groups of people.